When Amanda was seventeen, she asked God to show her the one.
She meant it sincerely—pen on paper, journal open, heart wide. “Lord, is there just one person in all the world You’ve made for me? And if so, where is he? What if I miss him?”
That night, she fell asleep staring up at her ceiling like it held a map. If she squinted hard enough, maybe she’d see a dotted line leading from her small town in Nebraska to someone else’s somewhere—someone made just for her.
Maybe you’ve felt that too. That quiet ache. That searching sense that if you don’t find this one person, you’ll live in some lesser version of what could have been. Maybe you’ve even whispered Amanda’s prayer. “Lord… is there just one?”
Scripture doesn’t give us a direct answer to that question—but it does hand us something better: a picture. A picture of Eden, of God identifying Adam’s aloneness not as a flaw, but as a sacred gap only He could fill.
“The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’” (Genesis 2:18, NIV)
So God brings forth Eve—not from the earth but from Adam’s own side. Not created alongside him, but created for him, from him. A companion shaped to share not just his life, but his essence. Adam sees her and declares, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.” (Genesis 2:23)
That’s a love story. But it’s not a formula.
We aren’t handed a divine algorithm that connects names with guarantees. Instead, we’re shown a God who sees loneliness and meets it in relationship. Not in perfection. Not in fairy tales. In covenant.
Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” It’s not “he who waits for his soulmate.” It’s “he who finds.” There’s movement, choice, discovery—grace wrapped in free will.
Here’s the surprising truth: the Bible doesn’t promise us “the one”—it invites us to become someone.
Someone who pursues commitment over compatibility. Someone who knows marriage isn’t finding the perfect person, but choosing an imperfect one again and again. Someone who sees love as a discipline, not just a destiny.
Amanda’s story didn’t lead her to a magical moment—but to an ordinary one. She met Josh at a church event when she was twenty-five. He didn’t look like her list. He wasn’t where she expected. But one date turned into two, then a confession of fears, then late-night talks, then her hand in his and vows made three years later that still echo in their kitchen.
Sometimes, it isn’t about finding the one. It’s about being one—present, patient, prayerful—in the right time, with the right heart.
Because God doesn’t script our romances like a novel; He shapes us for relationship through His Spirit. He’s not withholding a soulmate; He’s inviting us into something even stronger than fate—faithfulness.
I once heard someone say, “Marriage isn’t so much about finding the right person as becoming the one who can love well.”
Is that romantic? Maybe not in a Hollywood way. But it’s holy. And it’s real.
If you’re single and wondering if there’s someone out there for you, take heart. God sees your desire. He knows the ache behind the question. Keep becoming. Keep seeking Him first—not just a spouse—and let Him unfold the story only He can write.
And if you’re married and wondering if you ended up with the wrong person—if the one was someone you missed along the way—remember: God doesn’t hide His will behind closed doors. He blesses the path of those who walk in obedience and love. If you’ve made a covenant, then that person beside you is not your mistake. That’s your calling.
There may not be "the one" in a cosmic, only-one-person-out-there-for-you way. But we serve a God who turns ordinary relationships into sacred unions, not because of who we find, but because of who He is.
And that’s enough. That’s more than enough.
When Amanda was seventeen, she asked God to show her the one.
She meant it sincerely—pen on paper, journal open, heart wide. “Lord, is there just one person in all the world You’ve made for me? And if so, where is he? What if I miss him?”
That night, she fell asleep staring up at her ceiling like it held a map. If she squinted hard enough, maybe she’d see a dotted line leading from her small town in Nebraska to someone else’s somewhere—someone made just for her.
Maybe you’ve felt that too. That quiet ache. That searching sense that if you don’t find this one person, you’ll live in some lesser version of what could have been. Maybe you’ve even whispered Amanda’s prayer. “Lord… is there just one?”
Scripture doesn’t give us a direct answer to that question—but it does hand us something better: a picture. A picture of Eden, of God identifying Adam’s aloneness not as a flaw, but as a sacred gap only He could fill.
“The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’” (Genesis 2:18, NIV)
So God brings forth Eve—not from the earth but from Adam’s own side. Not created alongside him, but created for him, from him. A companion shaped to share not just his life, but his essence. Adam sees her and declares, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.” (Genesis 2:23)
That’s a love story. But it’s not a formula.
We aren’t handed a divine algorithm that connects names with guarantees. Instead, we’re shown a God who sees loneliness and meets it in relationship. Not in perfection. Not in fairy tales. In covenant.
Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” It’s not “he who waits for his soulmate.” It’s “he who finds.” There’s movement, choice, discovery—grace wrapped in free will.
Here’s the surprising truth: the Bible doesn’t promise us “the one”—it invites us to become someone.
Someone who pursues commitment over compatibility. Someone who knows marriage isn’t finding the perfect person, but choosing an imperfect one again and again. Someone who sees love as a discipline, not just a destiny.
Amanda’s story didn’t lead her to a magical moment—but to an ordinary one. She met Josh at a church event when she was twenty-five. He didn’t look like her list. He wasn’t where she expected. But one date turned into two, then a confession of fears, then late-night talks, then her hand in his and vows made three years later that still echo in their kitchen.
Sometimes, it isn’t about finding the one. It’s about being one—present, patient, prayerful—in the right time, with the right heart.
Because God doesn’t script our romances like a novel; He shapes us for relationship through His Spirit. He’s not withholding a soulmate; He’s inviting us into something even stronger than fate—faithfulness.
I once heard someone say, “Marriage isn’t so much about finding the right person as becoming the one who can love well.”
Is that romantic? Maybe not in a Hollywood way. But it’s holy. And it’s real.
If you’re single and wondering if there’s someone out there for you, take heart. God sees your desire. He knows the ache behind the question. Keep becoming. Keep seeking Him first—not just a spouse—and let Him unfold the story only He can write.
And if you’re married and wondering if you ended up with the wrong person—if the one was someone you missed along the way—remember: God doesn’t hide His will behind closed doors. He blesses the path of those who walk in obedience and love. If you’ve made a covenant, then that person beside you is not your mistake. That’s your calling.
There may not be "the one" in a cosmic, only-one-person-out-there-for-you way. But we serve a God who turns ordinary relationships into sacred unions, not because of who we find, but because of who He is.
And that’s enough. That’s more than enough.
